How to give a blowjob correctly: techniques and lessons, what men like and don’t like

Sexologist's opinion about oral sex

Professionals say that oral sex has a good effect on family life. A husband and wife who practice fellatio spend more free time together and do not avoid communicating with each other during the day.

In such families, according to sexologists, there are seven times less quarrels than in couples who do not accept oral sex. According to the observations of doctors, men in such couples do not experience problems with sleep, they fall asleep faster, they are not bothered by nightmares and insomnia.

And according to social surveys, husbands who receive oral sex often dream about their spouses. Whereas, on the contrary, in couples where blowjob is prohibited, husbands more often see unfamiliar or strange women in their dreams.

Muscovite brothers tore out 6 teeth from their girlfriend after “low-quality” oral sex

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Metropolitan police detained two men who mutilated their friend. The attackers armed themselves with pliers and removed several teeth from the victim after they did not like the sexual caresses performed by her friend Moscow-Live.ru

43-year-old Ilya and his 39-year-old brother Alexander face criminal penalties for rape and torture, LifeNews writes.

On Tuesday, a message appeared on the official website of the Main Investigative Directorate of the Investigative Committee of the Russian Federation in Moscow, confirming information about the start of an investigation into violent acts of a sexual nature and torture. A criminal case has been initiated under Art. 117 of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation, and the materials were “sent to the police for making a procedural decision in accordance with their competence.”

According to preliminary data, on September 17, the brothers, living on Koshtoyantsa Street in the west of the capital, invited 39-year-old acquaintance Irina A. to their home. According to the victim, she endured the brothers’ sophisticated bullying all night - from 18:00 to 8:00 the next day.

At first, the brothers and their guest drank alcohol, and then the men began to demand sex from their drinking companion.

According to investigators, the suspects did not like oral sex. Then Ilya and Alexander removed the woman’s six front teeth with pliers without anesthesia.

Only in the morning did the sadists leave the woman alone and fall asleep. Irina was able to leave the apartment, after which she went to the police and wrote a statement about rape.

The victim is currently in the hospital and refuses to comment.

The incriminating materials collected by the police were transferred to the Main Investigative Directorate of the Investigative Committee of the Russian Federation in Moscow for further investigation.

As a neighbor of the detainees named Anton explained, Ilya and Alexander often abused alcohol, smoked on the landing and made a lot of noise at night. “They had criminal records before,” Anton added.

However, the concierge says she did not hear any rude words from the suspects.

A New Zealand man who pulled out his partner's teeth during sex was jailed for six years.

An investigation into similar sex crimes recently concluded in New Zealand. There, 56-year-old Philip Lyle Hansen appeared in court. He removed the teeth of his cohabitants using metalworking tools and trying to bring them closer to his ideal of female beauty.

As one of the victims said, she once had sex with Hansen outdoors. During intimacy, the man suddenly grabbed pliers and a screwdriver, with the help of which he pulled out six lower teeth from his beloved, pressing her to the car door. To stop the bleeding, the attacker used a dirty, oily rag. Hansen then took the woman to a dentist to have her other teeth removed.

“He liked it when his women had missing teeth,” prosecutor Sally Carter said of the defendant’s motives.

In court, Hansen admitted that he likes toothless, curvy women. In addition, he did not want to spend money on dental treatment for his passions.

The woman who spoke in court for many years did not dare to report the abuse she suffered to the police, fearing reprisals from Hansen.

As it turned out during the investigation, Hansen subjected two more women to the same sophisticated torture. In total, he removed 12 teeth from his lovers.

The police came to the conclusion that four of his partners with whom he communicated between 1988 and 2011 suffered from the actions of the “fan of toothless women.” He cut his toes with one of them. The sadist also loved to stick his fingers into his lover’s mouth during sexual intercourse and loosen their teeth.

One of the victims said that after the first attack, Hansen promised not to remove her teeth again. But one day a woman woke up to her lover trying to pull out another tooth from her, and then raping the victim.

During a search, pliers with traces of blood from one of the victims were found in Hansen's bedside table. Investigators also found that while surfing the web, the suspect made 619 searches related to tooth extraction and “fat gummy ladies.” Hansen's hard drive also contained shocking videos of people removing their own teeth at home.

At court hearings, Philip appeared with a smug smile on his lips. As a result, he was sentenced to six years in prison.

Why give a blowjob, advantages:

Safety. With such caresses there is no danger of getting pregnant. You can give pleasure to your partner without protection, without fear of consequences, even on the most “dangerous” days of the cycle.
Rapidity. If a girl knows well how to give a blowjob, the process takes less than a minute. This can be useful when there is a risk of being seen or there are time constraints.
Intimacy does not depend on environmental conditions. Sometimes the desire to have fun can come suddenly. If the conditions are unsuitable for sex, then it is more convenient to resort to oral sex. For example, at a party, on the street or in transport.
Possibility of intimacy during menstruation. For a small part of women, menstruation lasts from a week to 10 days, this is their peculiarity. For young, temperamental men, this is a long period of abstinence; they can hardly stand even five days. At the same time, not all women agree to have sex during menstruation, just like not all men. Blowjob is a great solution in such situations.

What do men like during oral sex?

Blowjob is a pleasant caress, but there are some things that are especially pleasant for a man:

The entire penis is not an erogenous zone. Its trunk itself is not as sensitive as the head, neck of the head and frenulum. There are also many nerve endings on the lower part of the trunk. The most pleasant caresses of these parts will be.
Sometimes light touches of the teeth are very stimulating. This should be gentle touching, not biting. For the greatest effect, it is advisable to keep the same rhythm.
Stimulating the penis and testicles with your mouth and hands at the same time enhances the sensations.

Basic mistakes

Women learn how to give a blowjob from pornographic films, where the actions of actresses are aimed only at entertainment, and not at the pleasure of their partner. Now there are blowjob courses that teach you from scratch and help you avoid common mistakes.

Influencing only the head is a big mistake, since this part can lose its sensitivity if overstimulated. We must not forget about other parts of the genitals. There are many nerve endings on the scrotum.
You should not start and end oral sex abruptly. Men, like women, need time to tune in.
You should not give a blowjob too intensely - the act will end quickly, but will not differ from regular masturbation. Speed makes the partner think that the girl wants to finish the caresses as quickly as possible; they are unpleasant for her.
The monotony of movements leads to the fact that a man stops enjoying oral sex. Ejaculation occurs, but there is no moral satisfaction, and it plays an important role, as well as physiological. Therefore, it is better to change and add new movements and caresses.
You need to give a blowjob without tension. Any sexual contact, except violence, is joy and relaxation. Strenuous activities cause discomfort.
Don't hide your face during a blowjob. Inexperienced women think that they look stupid and ugly at such moments, but men perceive it differently. The partner's face during a blowjob excites them very much.
Having oral sex without making any sounds is also wrong. When a girl shows with moans and sighs that oral sex brings her pleasure, then the excitement and pleasant sensations for her partner will be many times stronger.
If a woman is not ready to swallow semen, you need to discuss this in advance, as well as other intimate details. At least on a like-dislike level.

Types of blowjob

According to the types of caresses, we can distinguish types of blowjob:

Pure, in which only the lips and tongue are involved. The hands don't work in it at all. This is a good method for beginners. With this option you can learn basic movements. The main thing is to make sure not to injure the genitals with your teeth.
Combined view. Here you need to give a blowjob not only with your lips, but also add caress with your hands. The penis is stimulated simultaneously with the mouth and hands or alternately. This method is good if the man’s genitals are large and the girl needs rest. Hand caress is much more active than stimulation with the mouth. At the same time, you can make movements with your hands so that they look visually beautiful.
Throat option. It is one of the most difficult methods, but men unanimously claim that this is the best blowjob. It’s not called “royal” for nothing. With this option, the penis goes completely into the throat. The biggest difficulty is that touching the larynx causes a gag reflex. This reflex is difficult and often impossible to get rid of. But this can be achieved with training or a spray that freezes the larynx.

An artificial phallus is suitable as a simulator. It is fixed on the table, for which it is convenient to use the version with a suction cup, and then start training. To make the dive successful, do the exercise at a comfortable angle and pronounce a long “A” sound, which helps the larynx open. Such training is beneficial and over time the gag reflex disappears.

How to prevent it in time

Be careful when your child learns to coordinate his movements so that he can put his finger in his mouth. If he does this before eating, it means he is hungry and it’s time to feed him. If the finger ends up in the mouth after feeding, it means that the baby needs to be kept at the breast longer, applied more often and not reduce the number of feedings until the baby himself begins to demand the breast less often. It happens that a baby quickly gets enough from the first breast, and is immediately given a second one - he refuses because he is already full, but his sucking reflex is not satisfied, so he sucks his finger. In such cases, do not rush to transfer the baby to the second breast. Remember that it is important not only to feed him, but also to give him the opportunity to satisfy his sucking instinct in the most natural way - with the help of his mother's breast. If it is not possible to devote 30-40 minutes to feeding, give a pacifier after meals.

Thus, thumb sucking is a signal to parents. If you recognize it in time and give the child what he needs (breast or pacifier), it will not develop into a bad habit. And there is no need to take your finger out of your mouth, so that this does not become a lever to attract your attention.

Technicians

Skillful techniques can add variety to intimate life and bring many new sensations. To master them, you can watch a video tutorial or go to training. A few common techniques:

For newbies

Make an “O” with your lips and cover your teeth with them. Holding the penis, move it with wet lips. Having reached the limit of a comfortable state, linger for a couple of seconds and return back. Repeat the movements. You can add your tongue to the action by moving it along the shaft of the penis.

Eskimo

Very simple, easy technique. To give a blowjob, you need to pull the skin of the penis down, thereby freeing the head. And then imagine that it is ice cream and start licking it with your tongue. Any movements, the more interesting, the better. To add variety, you can try to write all the letters of the alphabet on the head. The main thing is that the tongue is wet and the teeth do not participate in the act.

Hickey

You need to imagine that your mouth is a vacuum cleaner, pull the penis into your mouth about halfway, and then try to pull it out without weakening the vacuum.

The speed is very different. Many people like it when such movements are made quickly. Language is not needed here and can only get in the way. It is very important not to damage the penis with your teeth while getting carried away.

Deep Throat

Or "Royal Blowjob". The very method that men love so much - the penis penetrates deep into the throat. This technique often causes gagging when performed. For such a blowjob, the larynx is opened and relaxed, then the penis easily slips inside.

There are special sprays that freeze the larynx, usually they contain lidocaine. By “freezing” her throat, a woman loses her gag reflex for a short amount of time. This technique can be learned by training on a dildo, but without freezing, not all women can cope with the gag reflex.

Crazy orgasm

For this trick, a finger is used to block the channel at the base of the penis through which sperm passes. At the same time, the mouth and hand continue to massage the penis along the entire length of the shaft. Clamping simulates the spasm that accompanies ejaculation. When the channel is released by releasing the finger, an orgasm occurs that is more intense and longer than usual.

Kitty

You need to sit comfortably between the man’s legs and start caressing his crotch with your tongue. From the anus and throughout the perineum, without forgetting even a single centimeter of the body. The movements are reminiscent of how cats lap up water with their tongues.

Wet

To perform it, you need to lubricate your hands with gel lubricant and do not swallow saliva. The penis will be very wet and the sliding will be intense. They take the head into the mouth, and then move away and let it pop out of the mouth with a popping sound.

Butterfly wings

Just below the head of the penis there is an area called the crown. Beneath it is a vertical fold of delicate skin. If you constantly stimulate this area during oral sex, you can greatly increase sensations.

Rotation

Wet lips are placed around the head and twisted along the line of the frenulum. This stimulation causes orgasm very quickly. It will help restore an erection if it has subsided.

Is thumb sucking a problem?

Most children suck their fingers from a very young age, some starting in the womb. Sucking is a natural reflex for babies and serves important purposes. It creates a feeling of safety and security. It can also be relaxing. This is why many children suck their fingers while falling asleep.

According to the American Dental Association, children quit thumb sucking on their own between the ages of two and four. They simply outgrow this reflex; it becomes useless.

However, some children continue to suck their fingers well into preschool age. If your child is still thumb-sucking when permanent teeth emerge, it is time to be proactive about eliminating the habit.

What to pay attention to

First of all, observe how your child sucks his fingers. If he sucks passively, that is, his finger lies freely in the mouth, then this will not cause significant problems. If, on the contrary, he presses his finger on the teeth or gums, then this can change the bite and cause uneven growth of the child’s teeth and jaws. Frequent intense pressure can even change the shape of the face. All this will require further treatment by an orthodontist.

Main changes from thumb sucking:

the formation of a gap between the upper and lower front teeth (open bite, inability to bite off food with the front teeth);
tilting the front teeth forward;
narrowing of the upper jaw (crossbite).

How to help your child quit this habit

This habit is quite difficult to break once your child enjoys it! First of all, you need to wean your child from sucking his fingers during the day, and only then will he wean himself from doing it at night.

Always be positive and supportive of your child. Instead of punishing your child for thumb sucking, reward him for not sucking.
Put a mitten or sock on his hand not as a punishment, but as a reminder of the need to grow up. You can use bandages or apply mustard to your nails.
Use a daily reward system: for every day without thumb sucking, the child receives a sticker; for seven days with stickers, he can choose a prize for himself: a trip to the zoo, a new set of blocks. For a month with stickers, he will receive some more significant prize. As a rule, by this time the habit has already disappeared. Making your child an active participant in your treatment will help you achieve success faster.
If you see that the cause of thumb sucking is caused by the child’s fears, then the work should be carried out by eliminating his anxiety, and not the bad habit.
Observe the time when thumb sucking occurs (on the road, during a long movie show) and try to create entertainment or distracting activities in such cases.
Explain to your child in detail what will happen to his teeth if he continues to suck his fingers.

How an orthodontist can help

Orthodontists may be able to provide devices for your child to help with their thumb sucking habit. These are peculiar plates with limiters in the sky.

If a child quits his habit before the age of 6-7 years, then minor changes in the position of the teeth usually go away on their own due to jaw growth. In cases where permanent teeth have been exposed, only special orthodontic appliances can change their position. Fortunately, they successfully cope with this task.

However, bite correction in children can only begin after eliminating the habit! Otherwise, the treatment will be ineffective.